I’ve umm’d and ahh’d about publishing this post as I’m aware that mainly bloggers will only relate to this, but I hope that for those of you who don’t blog, you find this read interesting!
So today I’m talking trolls, followers, and setbacks. Blogging can seem, and can be absolutely amazing at times. Little parcels filled with goodies, such nice comments left on posts, and great feedback and opportunities given by brands does feel amazing. It makes me feel so proud, that this little place on the internet, that I’ve created is valued by more than just myself. I don’t blog for the free gifts, the sponsored posts, or the opportunities, although they’re a huge bonus, I blog because I love connecting with my followers, I love finding out what you guys think or are interested in, and I love sharing my favourite outfits, products, and travel destinations. I’ve always loved writing and found that when I started blogging, I felt comfortable and knew that this was definitely going to turn into my main hobby. However now, I’ve been lucky enough to be able to make this little hobby into something in which I can earn an income, even if it’s a tiny one.
However, blogging can also cause major stress, negative emotions and sometimes you find yourself comparing your blog to others, asking yourself what you’re doing wrong when your follower count hasn’t increased for over a month, and more than anything, you begin to realise that blogging isn’t always 100% amazing. But that side of blogging isn’t usually shown, the internet has become a place where we only show what we determine looks “good”, what we think people will be interested in, we don’t show our reactions to trolls, we don’t show the stress that multiple negative comments can have upon us, and we don’t show the true reality of this world.
One of the most upsetting things that can happen to you as a blogger, a celebrity, or even just a normal person. I myself have been the victim of some incredibly nasty trolls, who targeted my personal characteristics, such as my appearance. I do believe that I’m quite strong when it comes to negative comments about myself or my work, but at the same time, when your notifications begin to be filled with nasty, vile comments, it can and it does hurt. If you’ve followed me for a while, you may remember when I called my bullies out, or as such, my trolls (you can find my post here). I had had enough of my trolls, yes, they had upset me, because who wouldn’t be upset when they receive such awful comments, but at the same time, I wanted everyone else who has been, or may become a victim of trolling, that you are not alone, that it can happen to anyone, and that these trolls, aren’t worth getting upset over. Although, if I hadn’t had published that post, you guys would have never ever known that I was receiving those comments, you would have continued to think that my life was perfect, that every post I published was loved by all, so I wanted to show the harsh reality of what bloggers can experience.
Ahh, followers, probably the most used term in the blogging world. I probably read over fifty tweets relating to the subject of followers on a daily basis, and I’ll happily admit that I’m one of those people. If I see a follow train online, you can guarantee that I’m engaging with it, but you can also guarantee, that some people engage with it, to simply increase their following, and then 24 hours later, you find out that you’ve been unfollowed, whilst they’ve managed to safely keep their now increased following. Most of these people seem to unfollow during the middle of the night, now, I don’t want to be petty, but if you’re going to play the follow/unfollow game with me, I’m not going to engage with it. I’m the type of person who puts supporting others over competitiveness. Okay, so maybe at times I wish that I was given an opportunity that another blogger has, but at the same time, I’m super happy for them, their hard work is paying off. I’d much rather follow people to enjoy and engage with their content, and build relationships, rather than just click a button to make myself look more popular on the internet. I’m sure a lot of you can relate to this, and understand just how annoying the follow/unfollow game is, but once again, we rarely show you this side.
Alongside this, we also receive amazing opportunities, and then sometimes we reply to those, and find out, that we’re no longer eligible because we don’t have as many followers as the company wants us to have. I completely understand this, because at the end of the day, that company is also trying to succeed, but at the same time, I want companies to reach out to smaller bloggers, to understand that just because we may not have 10K followers on Instagram, we still have great engagement and our work is of no less value than others.
Setbacks can really impact your blogging game, it used to impact mine, and then I realised that my content won’t always please everyone. I understand that companies may look for different things and sometimes, I just don’t fit their niche. But when you’ve spent hours drafting a post, taking photographs and proof-reading a thousand times, just for the post to be rejected, it can feel disappointing and you may ask yourself, “where did this all go wrong?”. However, I’m not going to spend too much time discussing setbacks, because I’ve realised, that the most important thing you can do when experiencing this, is to grow, and to learn from it. Okay, so the company didn’t like your post. Move on. Ask what they didn’t like, ask for the feedback, and take that feedback and grow. Find inspiration, take a few days off, make sure that you don’t get too upset or stressed about it, because sometime soon, another company is going to love what you’ve created, and then all of a sudden, you realise that that setback months ago, no longer bothers you. It was simply a learning curve.
I hope that both bloggers and non-bloggers have enjoyed this post. Although I’ve made blogging out to be not as great as one may think, I can assure you that 98% of the time, it’s absolutely amazing. I’m still so grateful, each and every day, to be able to create my content, to work with amazing brands, but I also encounter the issues raised above. I want my followers to be able to see and read into the real me, not just a life that I’ve created through the internet. I want you to see the downfalls, I want you to see the setbacks, I don’t want you to think that my life and my blogging is perfect, because it’s not, and we all need each other, no matter how big of a blogger you may be, or no matter how small, your content matters and you’ll always have my support.