One issue that has been taking up most of my twitter feed recently, is the fear of failure and not getting that A* grade, or that job promotion or achieving your goals. Therefore, I hope this post will help you to increase your motivation to smash your goals!
First of all, stop putting so much pressure on yourself! I know what it’s like to put enormous amounts of pressure on yourself, and could probably write a guide on how this can effect you, but after three years at university, I’ve learnt to remain calm, as I mentioned in my previous post (Learn how to de-stress yourself!) and through this, although I’ve always been determined to be successful, I’ve also learnt how to stop putting so much pressure on myself.
I really feel for teenagers growing up in today’s society, as there seems to be so much pressure put on them! For instance, near enough everyday I see teens tweet about how they wish that they looked different (if you’re interested more in this topic, have a read of a recent post addressing this topic here), but I also see tweets about how much pressure is put on young people regarding education. Yes, it’s important that we all try our very best to succeed and to get the grades that we need to secure our future prospects, but it’s also more important to focus upon our health, especially our mental health, as lots of pressure can impact the way that we feel and can lead to large feelings of anxiousness, which is something that we should try to avoid. So next time you’re stressed out about an exam, or an interview for the career of your dreams, take time to sit back and reflect on the things that you’ve already achieved. Try your very hardest to not put too much pressure on yourself, and always ensure that you’re top priority is your health.
Remember that ‘friend’ who didn’t congratulate you on your new promotion? The one who wasn’t happy when you secured an interview for your next big step? The one who didn’t really listen when you told them that you’d achieved one of your goals? The people who you surround yourself with can either have a hugely positive impact on your life, or a not so positive impact. Ensure that you surround yourself with your biggest cheerleaders! The one’s who motivate you to take the risk and apply for the job, the one’s who are overwhelmingly happy for you when you receive great feedback on your essay! The one’s who are always supportive, and never ignore your achievements. We don’t need to consistently be supportive to our friends 24/7, but we should be supportive when we can be and when we’re not focusing upon our own goals! Sadly, each and every one of us will come into contact with someone who we believe are our good friends, but when you take a step back, and think about the last time that they were genuinely happy for your success, you may realise that this person came into your life to teach you a lesson, and not to be your greatest cheerleader.
Let’s turn the previous negative into a positive, which is a perspective that you should take on a daily basis! Okay, so we may not be successful every time we try to do something, in fact, we may encounter difficulties along our way to achieving our goals. But do not let negativity stop you. Yes, it can be disheartening if you’ve worked so hard and for so long on an assignment and you didn’t get the grade that you wanted, but always turn a negative experience into a positive, for instance, maybe you didn’t get the job that you wanted…well okay…this gives you more opportunities to search for other jobs, and another job may be better than the one you wish you had gotten!
Slow…and…steady. Not everything happens over night, and some goals require hard work, so don’t rush into things, don’t think that because you haven’t achieved your result in one week that you never will. Take your time, be patient, and have faith in yourself, because as we’ve all heard before, “slow and steady wins the race”.