Two posts in one day? You’re probably wondering what is going on, so I’ll tell you…
Earlier on today, I received some hateful comments, the person commenting clearly didn’t know that I have to approve them first before they actually get published. This post is for everyone who has ever been a victim of bullying, trolling or has been stalked online, I myself have and continue to be.
However, let’s start with a positive, social media is a great way to interact with like-minded people, through my blog I’ve had the opportunity to meet other bloggers and work with some amazing companies. I’ve always loved blogging and will continue to publish posts regardless of any comments that come my way, although I do realise that not everyone thinks this way, I know that some people receive comments, and want to stop doing what they’re doing immediately, because that’s perceived as the easiest way for it to stop. Maybe a few years ago I would have stopped, I would have probably taken my social media down as I used to be of a quiet nature, however, growing up, moving to University, and working with multiple companies has made my confidence increase a lot, so rather than back down like the person who wrote these comments probably wants me to do, instead, I’m going to write a post just for you.
Throughout my school life, I was subject to vile comments, both verbally and online, funnily enough, these comments came from girls who I didn’t even associate with, still to this day, I have never said a word to them. I suppose I was an easy target, I didn’t speak up much, and wouldn’t say anything back, that made me look like I was weak, so it was easier for them to bully me, rather than someone who would retaliate.
However, I am not weak, in fact, I am far from it. It’s sad that these bullies online use their free time to talk about other people, to write comments hoping that it’ll upset them and pick out any flaw that they can. Instead, I am currently receiving a quality education from a high-ranked University, running a small business and earning enough to be able to afford the things that I want. I often receive comments stating that my designer items are “fake”, I can assure you that none of my handbags, shoes and fragrances are fake, I have saved up for them through my own hard work.
Not many of my readers know that I have a birthmark on my right arm, however, this has given bullies ammunition in the past, for instance, I would be asked “How many bottles of bleach do you need to remove that thing?” or “Ew, what is that?”. These remarks used to really hurt me, so much so, I went through months of painful laser surgery with the intention for it to be removed, just so I didn’t have to endure the cruel and spiteful comments. The surgery made my birthmark a whole lot lighter, but didn’t remove it entirely, but I’m okay with that.
After moving away from my hometown to go to university and meeting new people from all over the world, I soon realised that it wasn’t me who had a problem with my birthmark, instead it was them. It was their words that made me believe that my birthmark was such an awful thing to have. I wonder how they would feel if they had a child with a visible birthmark, or a disability, and an unkind group of girls decided that it would be fun to make their son or daughter feel as though they weren’t normal.
My message to all victims out there is that, if you find yourself in a similar situation, at school, college, university or even in the workplace, do not keep it to yourself. Speak up and make your voice heard, it can be incredibly difficult and a scary thing to do, but it’ll make you feel a whole lot better. I decided to speak to my parents and teachers when getting bullied, so make sure you speak to someone who you trust. Or even if you just want to chat with someone who has also been a victim, my emails are always open. But always remember this, those people who are trying to upset you, are the ones with a million insecurities, they need to gather round a group of people who are stupid and immature enough, to help them carry out their wounding and inappropriate behaviour, just so they can feel better about themselves.
As I mentioned, the comments that I received today were full of hate, and although I didn’t approve the comments so that they could be published, I have decided to post them here, for all of you to see, to let you know that if you’re in this situation, you are not alone, even though you may think it.
And as for the sender, thank you for taking the time out of your day to view my website, my posts, my pages, I do suspect who you are. If anything, I feel sorry for you that this is your form of entertainment.