3 Tips for Strengthening Your Relationship

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Our relationships with our romantic partners are some of the most important facets of our lives, and will inevitably play a major role in our overall sense of well-being, connection, and life-satisfaction.

When everything is going well in our relationships, the world seems like a bright and wonderful place, and there’s little – if anything – that seems to be beyond our reach.

But, as with all things in life, relationships take plenty of work and dedication, and even the closest couples can butt heads from time to time, and experience certain issues and conflicts.

If you feel like it would be a good idea to go the extra mile in strengthening your relationship, here are a few suggestions that might be useful. 

Commit to a policy of total honesty

It’s been said many times that all strong relationships have to be based on honesty – but often, we don’t take this message to heart half as seriously as we should.

In a relationship, there are no such things as “white lies.” Any time you fail to be honest with your partner, you undermine the trust, closeness, and integrity of your relationship in ways both subtle and serious.

Commit to a policy of total honesty, and it can be remarkable just how positive the effect is.

Of course, it’s important to remember that total honesty doesn’t mean “needless cruelty,” or “saying the first thing that pops into your head.”

If your partner asks “does this outfit look good on me?” And you don’t think it does, don’t say “you look awful” – instead, say something like “I think this other thing would suit you better.”

A policy of total honesty can allow you to avoid many potential issues, long before they develop.

Consider therapy and counselling sessions

If there are certain recurrent, and serious sources of tension or unease in your relationship, it may be a good idea to consult with an expert counsellor, or therapist, in order to get a different perspective on things.

Many different types of relationship-focused counselling and therapy exist, ranging from sex therapy sessions, to sessions designed to help enhance your communication skills.

You don’t have to just accept whatever a counsellor or therapist tells you – but if you’re struggling to come up with answers and solutions on your own, this sort of outsider’s perspective might be quite helpful.

Make a real effort and commitment to actually spend time together, on a regular basis

For a relationship stay strong and healthy, it is simply essential that you and your partner make a real effort and commitment to actually spend time together, on a regular basis.

A relationship isn’t just a static state that you exist in. It’s an ongoing process of bonding with a person, forging new experiences and memories with them, confiding in them, and learning more about them, over the years.

A major reason why long-distance relationships so often come to grief, is that they don’t allow for enough direct face-to-face, in-person time together.
Maybe you’re busy at work, or distracted by various other obligations in your life. Still, it’s important that you set aside some precious minutes to relax with your loved one, go out together, and share jokes and stories, when you can.

No Time To Visit the Doctor?


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Many of us put off going to the doctors because we don’t have the time. Doctors surgeries tend to be open from 8 until 6 when many of us are at work or school. Booking an appointment can also be difficult – many doctors surgeries require you to be on the phone from 8am if you want to get an appointment for the day.

Not having the time to go to the doctors can be dangerous and it could prevent you getting the treatment you need. A small health issue could eventually turn into something more serious. For this reason, it’s important that you get the check-up you need.

Fortunately, there are now many ways to visit a doctor even if you lead a busy live. Here are just a few ways to get the appointment you need.

Call up 111

111 is an NHS phone service for non-emergency medical problems. It allows you to talk to medical professional and get advice over the phone. If your health issue sounds like it may need urgent medical attention, you may be able to get a fast-tracked doctor’s appointment or an appointment at an out of hours clinic. 111 is free to call and is open 24 hours 7 days a week.

Order prescriptions online

Need to pick up a prescription? Certain medication is available online to buy and get delivered. You can get a consultation with a doctor online and then have the medication ordered to you, saving you a trip to the doctor’s and the pharmacy.  

Go private

Another solution to getting medical treatment in your own time is to go private. You can book an appointment at any time and won’t have to go on any waiting list. Some private health services may even allow you to send out a doctor to your location – so if you’re busy at work but need to get a health problem checked out, you can do so without taking time off work. A drawback to private healthcare is the cost. If you think you’re going to use it regularly, you may want to invest in health insurance. Some companies may provide free health insurance to employees, which is worth taking advantage of.

Prioritise your health

None of these solutions work for you? It could be time to prioritise your health.

Whilst many of us do lead busy lives, our health should come first. Most employers will be understanding if you need to take time off to see a doctor. If you’ve got kids to look after and can’t take them with you, you could always get someone to babysit. Whilst these other commitments may be important to you, you won’t be able to handle these commitments if you’re not looking after your health.

Make sure that you’re also not putting off a doctor’s visit for other reasons. This could include being too embarrassed, being afraid of needles, being afraid of being around people that are sick or simply not trusting doctors. If you don’t like your current doctor, you can always ask to see someone else and you don’t have to accept any treatment (there may be alternatives to an injection or blood test).

The Finishing Touches That Every Wedding Needs

While you are in the throes of planning your nuptials, you might be thinking about the big things: the venue, the dress, the honeymoon and the food. There are plenty of smaller aspects to your big day that shouldn’t be overlooked to make sure that your wedding day is as perfect as you can make it. It’s always a good idea to sit down with your other half or your maid of honour and share your detailed plans. You never know, they may be the ones to tell you that you’ve overlooked the flowers! Take a look at these smaller finishing touches that every wedding needs.


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Invites

As you begin your wedding plans, you’d be forgiven for forgetting the importance of your wedding invitations. Wedding invites from Pure Invitation are unique in that they allow you to choose from an array of designs and colours which you can then purchase DIY style saving you money and allowing you to get a it more hands on with your big day. Wedding invitations range from the formal to the handwritten, and from the vintage to the ultra modern and sleek. You need to decide which style suits you as a couple and fits into the ethos of your big day. If you’re getting married in an arthouse cinema, perhaps a monochrome art deco look will suit.

The Cake

Wedding cakes used to be traditional affairs of three tiers, heavy fruit cakes, covered in thick marzipan with the bride and groom standing on the top tier and made from sugar fondant. Not many people enjoyed eating the cake and they cost a small fortune. Instead, why not consider a more modern cake? Consider what you love to do as a couple and get a cake to match. If you’re getting married on a beach, have a beach hut wedding cake. If you are into the outdoors, why not go for a three tier sugar lace leaf laden cake? The possibilities are endless, and with the array of baking shows on TV, there is fierce competition for your business. You could go for a decadent red velvet sponge, a salted caramel frangipane or a triple chocolate torte. The choice is yours.

The Music

Every guest has to linger at a wedding at some point. This might be because they are waiting to be seated for the wedding breakfast or because they are loitering around waiting to be called for the formal photographs. While this is unavoidable, you can make it more pleasant by keeping the music rolling throughout your day. Create a playlist of songs that mean a lot to you as a couple and play it throughout the day. This will add a touch more ambience to those less organised moments and will prevent the awkward silences while people are waiting.

Wedding Favours

Don’t overlook the little gifts that you’ll be giving your page boys, ushers, and bridesmaids. While some jewellery or cufflinks was once the order of the day, nowadays you can go for something a little more unique. How about personalised Harry Potter potions for the youngsters or gin experiences for those of age?

You want your wedding day to go without a hitch. Don’t neglect the little details and ensure that your finishing touches aren’t overlooked.



The Journey to Making Exercise A Permanent Fixture in Your Life


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Most people hate exercise, so you’re definitely not alone there. The problem seems to stem from the idea that working out is some sort of arduous activity. It’s true that it should be a challenge, of course, but it shouldn’t be a challenge that you utterly despise. If this is the case then you’ll never be able to stick to a workout routine. You need to find a way to stay physically active without hating exercise. Think back to when you were a kid and you ran all over the place with your friends. That was exercise, but you didn’t hate it. You just need to find the equivalent of that joy now you’re an adult. In this post, we’ll talk about the journey to making exercise a permanent fixture in your life.

Go easy on yourself.

The first step to making exercise a permanent fixture in your life is to go easy on yourself. As mentioned in the introduction, you shouldn’t hate exercise. It should be a welcome challenge in your life. The best way to achieve this is to take things slowly. Find an activity that you’ll enjoy, for starters. Maybe you could join a sports club so that you’d turn exercise into a fun social activity. That way, you’ll find a way to keep your body moving on a regular basis without focusing too heavily on the fact that it’s exercise. And if you want to take up jogging then build up your routine gradually. Start off by running for 10 minutes every day. Add 5 minutes to your workout every week or two. You might even want to consider physiotherapy to help you heal your body after a tough workout. That could be beneficial to your body and your mind.

Incorporate resistance training into your workout.

If you want to make exercise a permanent fixture in your life then you need to incorporate resistance training (or strength training, depending on what you want to call it) into your workout. This isn’t just so you can keep your fitness regime varied and interesting; it’s to benefit your overall physical health. Cardiovascular activity keeps your heart healthy and helps you to maintain a balanced weight, but strength-based activities such as weight lifting help to improve your muscle mass, bone strength, and your flexibility. Making your body stronger in this way will alleviate any aches or pains you might get throughout the day. It’s worthwhile in the long run.

Give yourself incentives.Another way to make exercise a permanent fixture in your life is to give yourself incentives. Obviously, your long-term incentive is to improve your physical and psychological wellbeing, but that won’t happen instantly. At first, you need to give yourself little incentives to encourage you to work out. You need to earn that relaxing evening on the sofa or that bar of chocolate. Tell yourself that you can have those rewards after you’ve met your fitness quota for the day. That’ll give you an incentive to exercise. It’ll also make those rewards all the sweeter because you’ll have earned them. You won’t have to feel guilty about enjoying the occasional vice because you’ll know that you’re leading a healthy lifestyle.

How To Be More Productive When Blogging


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We all know the feeling- it’s approaching evening time and we haven’t accomplished anything like as much as we would have wanted to during the day. The beginning of the day always starts off with good intentions, plans are made, lists are written and goals are aimed for. However sometimes at the end of the day your to-do list seems even longer than it was at the start. Being productive and managing your time especially when blogging can be very difficult.  We’ve outlined some ways that you can juggle your time effectively and be as productive as you can every day.

Don’t Multitask

It can be really tempting to try and tackle more than one task at once. Doing two things at the same time should get them done quicker, right? Wrong. Multitasking has been proven to actually cause damage to the human brain and it actually means that you are doing both things only half as well as you could have. Give your full attention and focus to one thing at a time and you will soon find that you are actually completing your work faster and not dealing with correcting mistakes or missteps. If you’re having a hard time managing all your documents and paperwork, thing about employing the help of a document management system, like the one you can find here: https://www.templafy.com/enterprise-document-management/

Take Your Time

It’s not uncommon for many of us to start working on our content and social media before 8 am and not logging off until much, much later. While it may seem like we’re getting more done by working increasingly long hours, it actually has the opposite effect. With more and more people becoming increasingly stressed and burnt out from work, more and more companies are encouraging their staff to take regular breaks. Stepping away from your desk to stretch your legs or get some fresh air is proven to help boost concentration, and increase your mood. Try a quick walk around the block to beat your mid-afternoon slump and see the dramatic difference.  

Set Yourself Small goals

Sometimes, just looking at your to-do list can be crushing and anxiety-inducing. Seeing a large chunk of things that you have to get done, can leave you resentful or depressed. Break up big projects into smaller, more manageable chunks to help you feel more in control and more productive once you accomplish them. This also helps you keep a track of how your tasks are going day to day and make more intensive tasks seem less daunting.

Do Your Biggest Task First

In other words ‘swallow the frog’. Don’t push aside your biggest task until later in the day when you may be too frazzled to tackle them properly. You’re more likely to be firing on all cylinders first thing in the morning, so deal with your most difficult projects early one. It also will give you a great sense of relief to not have it looming over you for the whole day.

Implement the “Two-Minute Rule”

Do the most with your time at work by filling any small gaps in your schedule with tiny, quick tasks that need to be completed. Need to fire off a quick ‘thank-you’ email to a PR who sent you some freebies? Instead of leaving it, send it as soon as possible because leaving it until the last minute actually takes up more of your time! Not every day can be completely productive but it’s a good way to set and keep habits that will see you in good stead in the future.